Accountability

This post is might sound like a bit of a rant... 

Accountability rant

...what is true accountability supposed to look like for Christians? In my opinion, when you are accountability partners with someone, you should really be there for them and be dedicated to being their accountability partner. Being accountability partners with someone is a commitment. Invest your time in the other person to show them you really care about them. Take time to meet with them. And meet with them, not just once a month, but regularly. Call them, text them, email them, meet with them in person to show them that you really do matter to them. Don't be afraid to ask the hard questions that are uncomfortable for both of you. Be vulnerable.  That truly is the only way a deep relationship will grow. The more you are open with your accountability partner, the more you will gain from the conversation and the more you will grow in your relationship with Christ. 

Also, when you meet with your accountability partner, start by asking them how THEY are doing, what they are struggling with, and how you can pray for them.  I have had a couple accountability partners in the past, who I am really thankful for. I am learning that people will disappoint you though, forget about you, and leave you hanging. I have forgiven a couple of my accountability partners for that. I understand that keeping someone accountable is hard- it's really a time commitment and something you really have to put time and effort into.  It's funny, because I haven't had to hold anyone accountable until now. I am learning. And to be honest... it's a hard thing to do, esp when you sometimes still struggle with what she's going through.  You do have to ask the hard questions, talk about the hard topics, and seriously, it's not really comfortable sometimes. It gets uncomfortable. But Christ calls us to be BOLD and to speak the truth in LOVE. I am truly thankful for the women who have come beside me in my struggles, who have asked me the hard questions and have often made me mad sometimes in doing so- thank you. You know who you are.

I don't believe that being accountability partners should be a one way road either. Yes, if you're the one that is struggling...seek prayer from them and guidance. But also ask THEM how they are doing, and how you can pray for them and be there for them. Invest in their lives as well. Accountability shouldn't be one sided, but rather both. Both of you should grow up in Christ. 

Rant. Over.